My Christmas Present to Myself!


I have finished my Christmas shopping early this year and now I can stay out of the stores, relax, and enjoy the Christmas spirit these next weeks. Luckily for me our families just buy gifts for the kids, which makes Christmas shopping so incredibly fun.  My husband and I don't exchange gifts because we both lack the buying-perfect-gifts-for-loved-ones gene.  In other words, we both get stressed out shopping for each other.

I grew up in a family where on Christmas my mother received thoughtful gifts like vacuum cleaners and tupperware from my Dad.  And whatever gift she bought my father he would claim he didn't need it (in his gruff German accent), and it disappeared into his closet-of-lost-and-unwanted gifts.

My mom decided she was sick of getting cleaning products and things that had to be burped for Christmas, so while she was shopping with my dad she would point out exactly what she wanted him to buy her.  So romantic Dad, but at least my mom would get what she wanted (as long as it was cheap).

I decided back then that when I got married my husband and I would take the money we would spend on each other and buy exactly what we wanted for ourselves.  That way there would be no stress or disappointments during the holidays.  Or unfortunate presents that would have to disappear into the closet-of-lost-and-unwanted-gift.  Luckily for me, I married a man who thought this was an excellent idea and we have lived in peace and harmony for over twenty years without buying gifts for each other.

Well, most holidays are peace and harmony.  Except for a Valentine's Day a few years ago.  My wonderful husband comes in the door with two huge bunches of red roses.  I was surprised because 1) I prefer red roses growing outside on a bush, and 2) We don't give each other gifts on that holiday.  So I politely asked him what was up.  (I sometimes lack all tact.)  He said that he was buying his mother red roses (her favorite flower) and decided to pick up some for me because he didn't want me to be "upset" (he actually used a rude synonym for upset since he was on the defensive) that he didn't get anything for me.  Oh boy...

That Valentine's Day was not our best, and to this day he doesn't understand why I was upset by his comment. Note to all husbands and boyfriends out there:  Don't ever, ever, ever buy your mother and your wife the same Valentine's Day gift, especially if the gift is something you picked out for your mother and then decided to double for your wife.

And now, because I was foolish and did not bite my tongue, he refuses to buy flowers for me for any occasion because I am "not thankful" (his words).  Note to all wives and girlfriends out there:  Never, ever, ever make rude comments about any gift your sweet husband gives you.  It really hurts their feelings.

I don't really know why I just went on this tangent, because I wanted to tell you what I bought myself for Christmas.  I am an avid coffee drinker (surprised?) and we have a really nice coffeemaker that grinds the coffee automatically before it brews.  I love this machine, but sometimes I want a cup in the afternoon or evening, and it is not practical to make one cup in that huge coffeemaker.

So I bought the Keurig Mini coffeemaker this week, in red, and I am absolutely in love with it.  The coffee is strong and hot and delicious.  Much better than the old Senseo I had years ago.  And the best part?  My husband loves it just as much as I do, so there is peace and harmony once more in our family.     I seriously have one of the best (and most patient) husbands in the world.

Now I have plenty of time to enjoy the real "reason for the season" and spend quality time with my loved ones.  :-)

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6 Comments:

Kim G December 1, 2012 at 9:33 PM  

Rita,
It's so nice to hear from someone who shares my philosophy! We have cut out the pressures of gift-giving also, and find this time of year so much more enjoyable. Sit back and have a cup of tea with me while everyone else is going into debt!

Wanda December 2, 2012 at 7:09 AM  

I couldn't help but chuckle as I read about that gift fiasco but very wise words you've shared. Hope you & yours enjoy a very Merry Christmas!

Cattie December 2, 2012 at 12:26 PM  

I love it! Finally another couple who are as "dysfunctional gift givers" as we are! We always buy something pricey for ourselves together that we both want and use (I think our radio that streams Pandora stations was the best one yet) instead of trying to figure out what the other might want. And I prefer flowers in nature too. :-) Great post!

Shawna December 3, 2012 at 5:53 PM  

I enjoyed your tangent about the gift 'argument' because it just sounded so much like my husband and I! He will no longer buy me flowers because I once commented that I'd rather he spend the money on something that lasts longer. I've not gotten one single flower since!

Lisa December 4, 2012 at 2:40 PM  

My husband and I do the same thing! I get it from my side of the family - we all make lists of what we want, and that way we are all happy and there are no disappointing surprises on Christmas morning. I really think it's the best!!

Rita December 5, 2012 at 4:12 PM  

Hee hee, Shawna! After this flower issue my husband told me he was NEVER going to buy me any flowers again because I was so ungrateful. So I am in your boat too. ;-) And so nice to see that we are not the only couple who does this.